Is it alright to hate a child(With RAD) that got your mother arrested on false charges?

We have custody of my neices and nefew who have RAD (Reactive Attention Disorder) the ages are 11, 8 and 7 and are a handful in their own ways. the 7 year old decided to act dumb to get attention, things that she use to be able to do are suddenly forgotten! the school has allowed her to do this and we were made the enemy! go figure! she uses the school and vise versa. To make a long story short: she went to school and the teacher found bruses on her back... (she later tells us that her teacher told her to say Grandma did it) CPS and police were called. They question her and her two siblings, and after school they stopped by and to question my mama. mama said there was cops in the driveway, I told the three to stay seated at the table went to the front door saw the cop and the cps worker getting out of the car. I turn around and see her smiling right next to the door. Mama was arrested for assault and battery. I ** HATE HER! and I am to care for her now mama cant! I AM 22 YEAR OLD!!!Is it alright to hate a child(With RAD) that got your mother arrested on false charges?
No need to have so much anger, try some pity. I know you going through hell. Since I am a foster parent, I am very familiar with RAD. It's not something you want to mess around with. These kids need HELP and fast. What you've experienced so far is nothing compared to what it could turn into. RAD is usually do to some serious sexual, physical, or mental abuse. People wonder where serial killers come from, RAD is it. I have also heard many professionals state their isn't a fix for this disorder. My best suggestion is to send them to a treatment facility where specialist who are trained in this area can help your nieces and nephews.Is it alright to hate a child(With RAD) that got your mother arrested on false charges?
If all 3 children have been diagnosed with RAD -and- you have personal issues against them (and it is easy to hate a RAD kid when you're their target - I know - It's not the kid that you hate, it's the RAD %26amp; the way it makes them act, though). But, anyway - feeling like you do %26amp; knowing that all 3 kids are already diagnosed RAD, I think it would be best if they could all get into good care with someone better equipped to give them what they need.





My husband %26amp; I have a strong partnership, very empathetic caring parenting style, and together we had a hard time with just *one* RAD kid. I can't imagine handling 3 of them on my own with no support.





Get them into therapeutic foster care. It may not be too late for the 7 %26amp; 8 year old to bond with someone %26amp; learn the fulfillment of personal responsibility %26amp; personal pride. It may not even be too late for the 11 year old, if she gets the right services.





In the mean time, keep on doing what you know is right by them, no matter how they react, who they manipulate against you. What other choice do you have? Keep being the best role model %26amp; caregiver for them that you are able to. Keep on trying to remember the sad childhoods that got them messed up like this in the first place - that it's not their faults that they are like this - it's an illness - but, don't let them slide, either - it's an illness that they can fight, if they choose to.
First of all, you are an adult. She is a child. What she did was terrible but she is not under normal childhood circumstances. Clearly she has no parents, has a real problem, and lacks guidance. I realize that you are justifiably angry but to hate someone for something that may be beyond their control is a little much. The time has come for some family therapy for everyone in the family. There is a solution but you have to be willing to get help.
I don't know what Rad is .. but it sure sounds like it is time to give up custody of this brat. And don't feel bad about it. You didn't give birth to them They should not ruin your life! Get some counseling for yourself.
kick them out to the curb....
First, you really need to get back to school for a proper education.





Next, social services will not make you care for children that you are ill-equipped to handle. They will take the children into foster care until this entire situation is resolved to their satisfaction.





And finally, no, it is never okay to hate a child or another human being. There is far too much hate in this world already.
That poor thing. She's thinking even bad attention is better than no attention at all. If you'd spend a little time with her and treat her like a little girl should be treated, it wouldn't take long for her to completely change her ways. And by the way, you never did tell us how she got bruises on her back. You're too concerned about hating a 7-year-old and boo-hooing because you have to take care of her.
First off I don't like the word HATE, it's an evil word and used to describe feelings against a child is totally unacceptable. If you don't feel you can care for these children let the state find a home who can best meet the needs of these children with special needs. That is what this is, children with a disorder whom require specialized care. But to say you hate a child is a prediction on how you will care for children you may have in your future when things go wrong as a parent of your own child. Get rid of that word in your vocabulary or resign yourself to be single for the remainder of your life. That word is indicative of anger, and a lack of God in your heart. Seek help before it destroys you.
You better seek help through counseling both for yourself and the kid.You are not fit to take care of children.
These sort of things happen because of lack of discipline and culture on part of children. Considering the age you described in your question, the blame goes onto the parents themselves for not teaching proper culture and right methods for their children. I advise you to be nice to the children and teach them what is right from wrong. I appreciate if you can take your time in educating them properly.